"From your EA or something else? When you say you had an EA, how far did you push it?"
From my EA. I pushed it to the deep friendship level and then exchanged flirtatious texts. Nothing physical at all. But in hindsight can see how the EA is just as bad if not worse. I can't believe I got wrapped up in it at all, and don't understand how I left myself vulnerable. I was diagnosed with depression/anxiety by my IC and doctor and am on meds. I see things clearer and have more joy in life. W's still said "too little too late".
"Aside from going to MC, what have the two of you been doing specifically for fun and intimacy? Have you tried doing something completely different?"
Other than family activities, we have skied together, gone on walks and dinner dates to new places. Spend the night at a resort and ice skated in Dec., which was new and fun.
I listened to a lot of anger and hurt from her last night, and can really see how she didn't feel appreciated. I listened and validated. How can I let her know that she still means all these things to me and that I do appreciate her without seeming as pursuing? Dare I write her a letter addressing the truth in her complaints last night?
Thanks for responding- every little bit helps me understand what changes I need to continue working on.
