Unlearning conflict avoidance - 11

[25yearsmlc]

I made the "Spiritual problem" statement a bit generically, b/c I know it can push buttons for people with various views & fears about religion, or what was intended when I made the comment.

But to me, anyone who cannot justify their LIVING on the planet, has a profoundly fundamental problem within, & that goes far beyond relationship issues,

yet it could also cause many of those^^ R issues.

Luke, there are many reasons you seem stuck to me. But the superficial ones are just that; superficial. Luke, what's up with your IC?

I'd pay out of pocket if you find someone good, if the problem is related to some insurance issue.

You need to work on this b/c it's the big obstacle to most of your progress.
You can make those behavioral changes and if you watch those TED Videos, you'll see that they can change us, within, as well. (Did you watch them? The Shawn Achor re; Positive psychology, and Amy Cuddy's talk, are not very long and they are on point here).

In your case, Luke, I wouldn't suggest only changing behaviors -- b/c you are in your head so much, I think you need some "mental clarity" in there too. And that's why I harp so much on digging deeper.

Make sense? And fwiw, this whole DB ordeal was painful as he11, but it brought out a spiritual side to me that I had ignored since my early 20s. It was deeply renewing for me. A book called "The Gift of Change" by Marianne Williamson had some useful parts to it.

For some, she is too "new agey" but for me, parts of that book, and the premise of it, really resonated. Lose the fear, and move forward with optimism. Luke your life could improve so much, so soon, I wish you could see that.

You need not find a specific church for this fellowship, (but it sure helps) and you can seek out fellowship in other places.

But for me, fellowship is another word for being with people with whom i have a deeper bond than mere acquaintances.

Like the other participants at the workshop, THAT was fellowship. You need that a lot more in your life Luke.

You once told me that our conversation was unlike any other you had had, in decades. Luke, I kid you not, I have those at least weekly.

I'm positive you would love having more of those, and for that reason, I urge you to JOIN something, this month. A class, a club, something...Pretty much anything that allows for connection and genuine communication...but JOIN with others...soon!

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