Upwards - DB myself to happiness!

[Upwards]

I did deliver an ultimatum, I've decided to cut contact as much as possible. Whilst its not really recommended its what I think is right for my situation and feel that in the long run it will be best for everyone involved as it gives me the space to get myself into a better place and it gives him the space to figure out what he wants.

I've been trying to be his friends and keep things light and happy but I need to put my foot down on this & need to make sure he knows that I'm not willing to be part of the triangle that he wants me to be part of, its only going to cause me more hurt and pain in the longrun. He's walking all over me and i've let him do this for far far too long, for me this is a BIG 180 and think it will shock him to be honest that i'm going to stick to it.

I'm going to write an email with some info in & arrangements to ensure that no/minimal contact is needed after we've sorted everything out. He can use email to contact and text if urgent, i'm going to block his calls for now so i'm not tempted to answer. His mum has already agreed a while ago to drop off the kids after he's had them (he picks them up from school) so I don't need to see him then.

The business stuff is going to be more complicated but i'm hoping to not have to see him for at least a few of weeks until I'm detached enough to just go in & work without letting him affect me.

He said tonight that we have already been "no contact" already which is absolutely not true as we've been in contact several times a day for the past few weeks - I believe that he'll have a shock when I put these things in place as I've been his "safety blanket" for the past 12 years!

This is going to be the hardest thing i've EVER done and i'm really going to need some support from you guys.