True, ye- I'm not saying I wouldn't support her if she chooses to go through with D. We still have the kids to connect us. I feel as though by accepting the D and not speaking up about the A I miss a chance to gain respect. She knows I'm willing to forgive and reconcile, so saying anything more is a moot point, right? I don't want her to think I'm not fighting for her. I wish I could take back what I did- I devalued her and our relationship. All the apologies, changes over the last 6 months weren't enough. Does she just need more time? My mistakes showed her that "she wasn't enough for me" (her words), and though that is not at all true, I realize that what I did certainly conveyed that. I fear that by not fighting her against the D it shows her the same.