FY- I do have a couple friends that are frustrated with me, they understand, but just think she has been given plenty of time and such. The counseling and what I need to see for R is definitely there, just a work in progress, it will be included. And yes, I mused a long time ago that due to W's historical behavior regarding decisions (avoiding, waiting until absolutely has to be decided at the last minute) that I would very likely have to create the "last minute".

Eric, I totally see your point...I am looking at the fact that she would have 30 days to respond, and then after that (unless she doesn't respond), there is a waiting period before it is finalized...so she has up to ~2 months to change her mind after I file. And, at the end of the day, it's just a piece of paper, right? As far as the joint account, it is less risky to keep that, because her pay does contribute to the household bills and expenses, than to depend on her giving me money for the bills.

TVS- Yes, the break will be nice, and is actually interesting to me to see how I will feel being a real single Dad for a while, and without her influence in the house, etc. So it will be interesting for everyone.

In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus

Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm