For Scorp7...since your thread is locked.

[Barrybran]

Scorp, I'm still in the 'location doesn't matter' camp but I agree with ye that you have low self-esteem. Through all of your threads we've all seen the common trend of people pleasing and that comes about through a lack of love for yourself. I can say that because I've been the same person and I'm still working on it. I live where my wife wants to live and I do the bulk of the housework and kid-chasing in my home. Originally, it was to try and please my wife and it didn't work. She appeared to not notice or worse, not care, and in turn I felt like crap because my efforts were going to waste. Once I found DB and started working on myself, it became clear to me I had to do things for myself, that made me happy, and surprisingly, I stayed in town because I wanted to be with my kids more than I wanted entertainment, etc and I kept up with the bulk of the housework because I enjoyed having clean clothes and dishes and a tidy house. You do need to work out what you want. Write it down and prioritise it if you have to. It will help steer you in the right direction.

As for the musician thing, you've had that longer than you've been married to your wife. Think about that. It's a great GAL activity and you meet new people through it too.