Well I am going to go further.... Need help saving my family...thats the title of your threads... Then a bunch of us put time in telling you the steps to follow but you prefer to be a victim.... I can come here everyday and tell you that she is a piece of Chit and nothing will change...do you know why? Because she is not the problem.... The problem here is you... Your self steeme its one of the problems here.... Basically you dont love, respect or care at all about the most important person you ever had in your life....thats correct that person its you!
You tell us that she blames you for everything, and one very important detail...how you been a musician and she wished you had quitted that so then you poorly you tell us that she is right and you were thinking about it....
While I was with my wife I wanted to be a photographer...support myself with photography and I did it, I became a very suscessfull paparazzi....2 years after I knew that as I kept repeating myself tht wasnt the photography I wanted to do so guess what? I stopped doing that, the kind of photography I want to do will arrive but first I have other things to do in order to reach that vision...
So no more drama in my life...I quit because I wasnt happy doing that type of photography not because my wife told me... I did that for my own self and my own benefit...I made a lot of money but I lost many things in the proccess so it wasnt for me....
It seems that all the things you were doing for yourself suddendly they dont matter so your W leaves and your passions leave with her and bro I cant believe that...its simply and pure lying to yourself... You want to keep doing it? Fine...your w its not coming back that way....
So now if I was her I would left you a long time ago...maybe I wouldnt even had kids with you ( I am not trying to hurt you) the reason why? Because your lack of confidence.... You doubting about your music career are just telling her...if one day doesnt work....so she probably tought oh chit what if we are 60 and he decides he is quitting without a plan? A woman has to look for her and her kids... She doesnt need you to be Michael Jackson, she needed you to believe in yourself, and when we dont have hobbies or friends or enjoy our life we are showing to the world that we dont love ourselves so of course many people dont want to be around us.... In life there are difficult times and your W its a person that supports you through them....but if you are not supporting yourself bro, she cant do all the job...
Thats what we show you here, to be confident and believe in yourself...your W might as well have her own issues and trust me when I tell you that her resentment now its probably because she sees that even now you are rejecting to take care of yourself...why would she respect you if you dont respect yourself???
Now you keep accussing her...dude I got it she might have problems but those are her problems not yours....you are focussing on her problems because its easier to blame her than to take a personal inventory of yourself...and dude you dont have to change that much...its hard the change but its necessary....
I guarantee you that if you respect and follow the advice members give you here you will succeed at this...if not, well keep doing what you doing and having 3000 threads, but nothing its gonna be different...you want different things? Work for them my friend, we are here to help you on that proccess....
So this is not easy and look once you improve and recover the pasion for the music... I cant believe you did that for 20 years out of passion just because it was a job....i just cant believe that... Once you recover that passion and hobbies and work towards ACCEPTING YOURSELF you can have whatever you want...even your W back...but untill them you are just crownling down the hole and more and more chit will happen.... And listen if you improve yourself and your W tells you hey I still dont want to be with you because you are not tall enough, you dont make enough money... You will not care less about that... Dont change to be who she wants...change to be who you want.
Are you ready to start now or should we keep going and continue to "blame" her??
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
