Look Scorp, we've all been where you are or similar. And we're all just trying to let you know what we've learned from it that isn't always easy to see while you're in the thick of it. So ...

Originally Posted By: Scorp7
I did a lot of things that were really only for me that my W went along with but she's told me since she's been gone that she actually resented those things.

Pure script. Read some other threads. It's very common for WAS's to rewrite history to justify their actions. As my friend Eric likes to say: Own your chit but don't let her put everything on you. Usually both parties have some fault.

Originally Posted By: Scorp7
Again, as I've said before, she was either afraid to tell me or I think the main issue was she didn't want to disappoint me by not going along with what she thought I wanted.

Mindreading. You don't know that. Stop.

Originally Posted By: Scorp7
Now that I've heard all of these things from my W it's like I have a mental block on anything that might seem like I'm doing something for myself that would go against my W.

What you should be mindreading is that maybe she knows this. And is using it against you.


Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.