Upwards - DB myself to happiness!

[Upwards]

he thought for a while then asked could be try and be friends and see what happened... I said that I'd like to do that although I am unwilling to do that whilst he's still in contact with this other girl and that is a firm boundary that i'm unwilling to move on.

I'm unsure on how to handle this... I know a lot of DB'ers are happy to continue being "friends" with their spouse whilst there is still OW/OM on the scene but this is something I just cant do. I'm quote possibly handling this all wrong - I've been a mug and let him walk all over me for a long time so this kind of feels like a 180 for me as i'm laying down my boundaries and sticking with them.

This was obviously something that we discussed when we talked and he agreed it wouldn't be fair to expect me to do that and said he had some decisions to make... I mentioned today that we needed to get logistics in place for NC/LC and he asked why, I replied "you know why" and left it at that then text him when i'd left saying:

"H, I want you to know that if you choose not to cut contact with her and want to move forwards with her then I understand and I will leave you to your life, I care about you a lot & truly want you to be happy and if that's without me then I respect that x"

What do I do from here?!! I have no idea if i'm doing the right thing or not to be honest - any help very much appreciated!