AJ Thanks for your input. Like many others I come here because really there is nowhere else to go. No-one else who who has experienced this unbelievable behaviour.
I have both a lawyer and an accountant. At the moment I do not have a harassment case. It just feels like it.
When I do have a case, then I will decide how to act. At that point I will also take advice from the therapist I saw, who also knows my xh, as the best way of proceeding.
Everything my xh is doing is perfectly legal, as far as it goes - that is, he has the legal right to do these things. Taken together it looks like an unreasonable pattern to any normal person. That is the problem. At some point the harassment case will be complete, Right now for the jurisdiction that I live in, it isn't.
It is just good to say/write the tings that one deals with, largely alone. I do not have a partner, and while my friends are amazingly supportive, it is now 8 years and more since all this happened! A long time on planet earth. My children - well it is their father acting like this, and it isn't good for them to be over-involved.
