Barrybran IV - Three Years Forward, 30 Years Back

[Barrybran]

I had a thought today about reconciliation if it occurs and the recent discussions I've had about 5LL. I was thinking I'd like my wife to read the book. Not now but if and when we reconcile; basically as an 'I know she's serious' thing. We discussed some things we both want when we spoke about our separation in January. It was a positive talk and very deep and meaningful for us but it was at a time we were both highly unsure of the outcome, I was unsure how to move forward from that point and I hadn't read any of my resources at that time. Now that I've read DB, DR and started 5LL I feel that 5LL would be a great read for my wife so we both understand how to present our needs and wants to each other, the differences in our love languages, and how to give and receive love in each other's languages. The friend I have in Iowa was provided this resource before she got married and she says it's helped her and her husband get through some rough times with things going on around them. Of course, we're talking several months to a couple of years from now but I think it would be worth it.

The WAS is a funny creature. I had a change to my schedule tomorrow so I let my wife know and arranged our babysitter to come earlier in the day. My wife mentioned she'd be home late and I've not asked questions previously but my kids keep asking me when Mum is coming home so I decided to ask today and she cooperated. I understand her business is her business but when the kids want their Mum home I struggle to answer their questions. After work I popped into her work to exchange cars and was greeted with an "oh, you're here" look on her face. A short time later she called excitedly to boast about a bonus she received. Funny creatures :p

She's been very tired lately. In all honestly, it's the usual by now, but she has put in more effort than normal at her store and it's showing. Unfortunately, her boss decided to skip over her store which is a shame as she's done a great job and he won't get to see it. I'm proud of what she's done and I've let her know how well she's done as well as congratulating her on her bonus. It feels better to be in a positive frame of mind as I am find it more and more easy to recognise opportunities to compliment her and it's sincere. It doesn't bother me how she receives it; I just feel good I can see and appreciate her effort. I've also been able to praise my son on his homework too. I don't give him any answers (my style is to guide him instead) and it takes him a long time to do it but he get the right answer eventually and he's getting quicker at it every night. Now if my two daughters could just behave themselves... :p