Hi peace- I'm so sorry your xh still hasn't been able to own up to his kids and be a father....however, they are still so blessed to have you for a mom!...and in some way blessed they don't have to deal with their fathers problems.
Glad to hear that you are doing the final bit of grieving that you need to do and moving toward acceptance of the tragedy of the situation with your xh. If your xh can at some point reach out to your kids in a healthy way, that would be a great thing but as we learned here so long ago, you can have no expectations.
I've thought of you often wondering how you were doing. Other than this curve ball, it sounds like you've been doing well. I hope that's true. I haven't had much time to post lately but for the last 4 or 5 months, my xh and I have been spending a lot of time together. He seems so much more like the man I married but yet tells me that I have changed. I suppose I have...how can you make it through something like this without massive amounts a self-reflection and growth! No matter what happens, I'll be fine.
Take care and continue to be thankful for all the good things in your life.
