Upwards - DB myself to happiness!

[Upwards]

Probably the best deterrent is to think about how he would respond to it. He's not going to respect you for it, won't find it attractive, and therefore, it won't bring him closer to you.

Once you get your hands around that, then GAL....go do something for you, learn something new, visit an old friend, exercise, take a walk, etc.

Yeh that's what it's been thinking, that's what's deterred me so far. It's difficult as far as GAL in the evenings because I'm stuck at home as the kids are in bed but I'm GAL as much as poss when I can, just trying to keep myself busy & distracted at the moment.