you're unwilling to do what, work on yourself or be friends while he is with OW?
Your own work is yours to do, regardless of what he thinks/feels/says/does.
I'd be upbeat, hopeful but expecting the worst. And I'd move forward. Your h knows how to court you and to try and win you back IF THAT DAY COMES,
but it won't if he thinks you are waiting
OR if he believes you are never going to forgive him for OW.
So, you can start swimming to the other shore now, without looking over your shoulders the whole time. When you get to the other side (GAL along the way) you will find your life vastly improved, with or without him.
IF he had died, and the grief had mostly passed, what would you do? Lie down in the fetal position and never get up again? Imagine for jet 3 minutes, your life without him, but with you being happy.
What does it look like? Would you do ANY new hobbies or take classes or move or get a different job? DETAIL this vision...flesh it out.
And now, see if there are any things in this list^^ that you can begin to do, today...
BE the better choice and don't look or ponder OW. That's beneath you if you are becoming your best self, which is your job/responsibilty.
Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
