Have you ever thought of this? After reading some recent posts with more and more additional information, I'm slowly coming to the conclusion that you WILL most likely come ahead of your W if you go for the full custody. Here's why:
1) According to you, you live in a nice neighborhood that is not crime ridden 2) You have the house and probably can afford to buy out your W 3) You have a full-time job that allows you to support the three of you financially in the family house 4) Your neighborhood is within a good school district and the kids know their friends from that school 5) Your W just upped and "kidnapped" the kids AWAY from their own home, their school, their friends
Let W move closer to your province if she wants to spend time with the kids! A change of perspective produces a different set of possibilities for you. See?