i spread the word of my wifes ea to her family with the intent of showing the family i was fighting for our marriage. Right action or Wrong action .. it has had an effect. not the idea effect, but her family has basically said what she is doing is wrong and the family supports our m. eventhough my waw does not.
It is done,and you need to go forward. How you handle it from here can either bring your WAW closer or push her further away. If you aren't talking to a DB coach, I suggest you do as they will help direct you what to do from here. It is very difficult to know to handle painful situations, but your coach will guide you and help you have clarity on what is the best route. Take good care.
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M for 8 yrs, together for 14... 2 d's aged 6 and 3. me 34, w almost 34 w started a new job in feb 13.... by may she had feelings for her boss... who is/was apparently unhappily married with a child wife persued her boss by staying late at work constantly while she was saying to me that work was so busy. bring on sept 13 , the family went away to the cottage... w had a breakdown while with my aunt saying that she didnt think she was in love with me anymore... the dreaded i love him but not in love with him. beginning of sept, right before our oldest daughter started the new school yr, she decided to change child care arrangements, moving our girls to the bosses moms house... (wait for it) come october .. she decided to basically stay at work late every night.. we had an argument which i basically said via text what is going on .. are we over or somthing... hence the dreaded bomb drop nov 1 2013.. "i think we should separate". i took it hard.. very hard.. did all the begging and pleading and tried to give her space... went downstairs in to the basement.. but i became curious.. i managed to get into her facebook and found out about her feelings towards her boss... how the babysitter(bosses mom) said to her > cant wait for her son to be done with his marriage so he could be happy with you(my W) i confronted my wife about this.. she denied what i had read and said it hurt her that i invaded her space.. week later she admitted it was true.. and we are done.. i moved out of the house .. under the advice of her very religious friend to give her space to figure things out.. at the time i informed her parents of what was going on... her father told her she is confused and needs to really think about what she is doing. i resisted the request for separation and moved back into the house against her wishes boxing day.. we had an argument and she said she was leaving.. she left for a trip and basically started poking fun at me via facebook.... called me controlling and manipulative as i wouldnt give in to her request to separate.. she told me she was in love and he is her soulmate.. i dont know what love is and the only good thing that came from our marriage was our children. this hurt very badly... come january she moved her stuff out and apparently moved in with a friend.. and the girls stayed at home with me... she came over most evenings to put the girls to bed and would pick them up in the mornings for school and daycare. i eventually had enough of the crap and sent a msg to the bosses wife about the situation .. she initially quit her job over the phone.. and went directly to a lawyer and filed custody papers of the children.. came home on valentines day to a note and half of the household items gone. she moved into her fathers house with the children. pulled our kids from the bosses mothers house (daycare) and is now watching them and staying at home. she filed for full custody and made ridiculous acusations about me and filed for a restraining order. now.. through a mutual friend.. i agreed to do the separation as i realized i cant hold onto a marriage myself and she agreed to withdraw the custody papers.... still waiting for her lawyer to send the sep agreement.. which is being drafted up as im typing this. i have made quite a few mistakes people.. alot.. the funny thing is.. i still love my wife and my main goal was to keep my family whole.. but i cant control who my wife has turned into.... its been going on since november and honestly im still a bit in shock.... i realize i need to protect myself and my children.. have contacted legal council ...
