Wonka, yes we own a large home we just had built on an acreage. It will need to be sold unless my W either voluntarily moves back to my home province (not likely to happen) or she is forced to by the court (possible but not likely at this point).
My moving to the same area as my W is 100% necessary if we are to have 50/50 with our kids. They are 4 hours away in another province so I would have to be there for me to have equal time.
Eric, there were signs that my W was not sure about D for several months so I did not want to rock the boat and have L's involved early on. In hindsight it was the wrong move but at the time it seemed the right thing to do.
I want my kids to have both their parents with them all the time (ie. having my W and I back together) but since I cannot control my W I have separated my desire to save my M from what is best for my kids. Over time who knows what may happen with my W and I but I'm trying to not let that effect my actions with regard to my kids.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
As far as my using a nanny, I think it's the best option and my W will for sure ask how I plan to watch my son while I am working, even if I am working from home.
My W is currently working part time away from home and working from home on her off days. Because of that, my MIL is the primary care giver to my kids right now. My MIL is in her late 60's and cannot keep up with my kids, especially my S2. I would think the combination of my working from home everyday and having a nanny assist me would be at least as good as my W being gone three days a week and having her MIL watch the kids.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
As far as my using a nanny, I think it's the best option and my W will for sure ask how I plan to watch my son while I am working, even if I am working from home.
While it might be the best option for you, I would leave it out of any parenting agreement discussion.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
As far as my using a nanny, I think it's the best option and my W will for sure ask how I plan to watch my son while I am working, even if I am working from home.
Mind reading again.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
And post here first before you hit the send button, Scorp. Reason? Lawyers are not DBers so they may be correct on the legal front, but from a DB perspective, can perhaps tweak a bit. I am not saying that the lawyers are wrong...just pointing out that they are not up to speed on DBing principles. Make sense?
1) If there is a shared parenting arrangement agreed to I would be open to relocating to the W's Home Town area.
2) I could move as soon as we agree on a shared parenting plan which splits time and custody with our kids 50/50.
3, 4) While it would take a lot of work to make happen and cooperation from Scorp's Company, I could work from home on a full time basis for Scorp's Company and would maintain my current position.
5) My work schedule would remain essentially the same, Monday to Friday, 40 hours per week. I would hire child care to assist with caring for the kids while I am working.
6) I may need to return to Scorp's Company City once or twice per month and would do so during the time the kids are with you.
It is not my preference to relocate to Your Province as all my extended family support system is here. However, if I am able to co parent with you in Your Province I am prepared to work to make such an arrangement possible.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
How do you feel about what L suggested above? I'd like to hear your initial thoughts while L is thinking about hers. Are you comfortable with what L wrote...is that what you truly feel/think as well?
