Unfortunately, WH, I suspect you will be. Unless he has a watershed moment, it's highly likely you will.
Bea - I have similar to report on my end. I do not think your H is abnormal per se. It seems he cannot or will not take responsibility, but that's par for the course here.
And as for the as-if - they do tend to walk away and act as if we left them. As if we did those horrible things to them. As if it was somebody else that did those things.
In some ways, it is somebody else. They do project onto us, but if not us, then whom? They aren't ready to handle it themselves. Obviously.
Some never have that watershed moment where they realize what they've done and they want to do something different.
Do yourself and all involved a favor - go build that harassment case. It won't help with this go around, but it will help you in the future as it lets everyone know what's going on and sends a clear message that you don't want to be bothered by him.
I know you'd rather have a friendly relationship. I know you'd like to think that you could be friends. That if he wanted to leave, why didn't he just go??? I've often wondered the same thing about my ex.
As near as I can figure, I haven't a clue as to the why
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
