3, I do think we should all meet with a child Psych, but that will happen a bit down the road. I have that in the works for the kids to meet with her, and I will invite H to speak with the C as well. She will probably have some things to talk to both of us about!
As far as talking with H, I was thinking not with a child psych but just with a regular therapist or someone who is well versed in D - that would give us a safe place to talk and we could go there when needed to ensure a better co-parenting R.
How would I broach the subject to my H?
Something like,
"H, I agree it would be best for us and our children going forward to have more open lines of communication. I think the best way to achieve that is with the help of a therapist who is well versed in divorce and co-parenting. Let me know if you are willing to do this."
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I am trying to avoid any blame or sounding patronizing or controlling. My H is extremely sensitive to every communication from me and tends to view it in the most negative light possible, so I want to keep it as clean as I can.
Yes, Bug, I agree with you - if he does agree, I will go in with an open mind and do a lot of listening. I learned my lesson after going to MC with my H several years ago, and realizing in retrospect that I had gone in wanting to be right. (Cringe.)
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
