Life has choices as many as we want!

[Upwards]

You did so well to stay and calm and not try to "rescue" her, she needs to go through this process and she has to go through this on her own in her own way/time.

This is one thing i've realised the past few weeks - My H needed to blame me, hate me and to go through those emotions to validate what he had done, it made what he's done ok in his heads and eased the guilt somewhat. When there has been distance between us he's not been able to direct his blame at me and has been forced to look at himself, this has helped with his resentments towards me and his respect for me has begun to grow again. Its a process, a slow process and unfortunately the only thing we can do is sit back and protect ourselves the best we can whilst is all going on.

Keep doing what your doing ye21, your bound have days where its really difficult and its ok to fall apart when you need to but always ask yourself "will this help in the long term" before you do anything relating to your W.

Keep focusing on YOU and how you can build yourself up.