I fully believe she has the best interest of her kids at heart, not what is in the best interest of herself. And her ex has only proved to have the best interest of himself at hand.
Thanks, Gineen. This is exactly where things are.
No, my H may not pose a physical threat to the kids. But, if we do end up getting a CFI or PRE, they will care about whether my H is putting the kids above himself. They will look at the broken promises he makes to the kids, the fact that he had the D convo with the kids alone after a child psych told us not to and after we agreed to have it together, the fact that he doesn't show up to things like TKD when they are expecting him to, that he chose a swank two bedroom apartment in a high rise downtown, etc. That stuff does matter.
[quoteI think 50/50 right off the bat is not a good idea, but she should plan for it to happen within a year over a gradual transition if ex can handle it and it's best for the kids.[/quote]
This is where my thinking is right now. But i am not putting a timeline on any of it. I am willing to agree to the next few months and let's see what happens. Right now, I don't know whether my H can handle 50/50, or whether it's best for the kids. We will see.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
