As you would agree, all of my questions are to nudge M into digging deeper and delving into her thought patterns. These questions are valid and reasonable to bring up here. You cannot ignore the fact that H is their Dad even if he is being a dickwad.
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The one thing we all agree here is that H is being a "dickwad" to borrow from one of Bets' gems. That doesn't change the fact that he is the childrens' father. Not one iota.
I'm with you on this, Wonka. He is their Dad. Honestly, I don't give a sh!t about whether he needs them or wants them or is entitled to them. But I do give a sh!t (a lot of sh!ts actually) about my kids. I would NOT keep them from their Dad, no matter how much of a dickwad he is to me.
Just so you all know, right now, my H has the kids overnight twice a week, and sees them two other nights a week for TKD. He could see them the third night of TKD, but chose to quit coming to that night of TKD because he wanted to sign up for a rowing class at his gym instead. Also, when he asks for extra time with them (like last weekend), I almost always say yes. And, when he has asked to take them out of town to see family or whatever, I have always said yes. I have already offered to give them an extra overnight with H every other week, which I think will be good for them. I am hardly keeping my kids from their Dad.
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Yes, it is uncomfortable to ask difficult questions here and I am not about to handle M with kid gloves just because I am firmly on her side. I am all the way.
I appreciate the difficult questions. These, I know in my heart I have already answered.
And thank you for being on my side!
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
