The reason for not having 50/50 parenting time NOW, is because it is a major disruption for the kids, and can be very stressful for them. I am saying this not just based on my Mom instincts, but on my discussions with child psychologists, my own C, and my L. When my kids start to see a C as well, her opinion will of course be paramount.
That makes sense. Just make sure not to prolong this indefinitely. I am wondering if this has been communicated with H in some shape, manner, and form. As you know, he's been agitating for this and may not have heard your reasons here. Has he?
Kids are not an asset to be divided. They are people who have feelings, and neither my nor my H's desires or feelings are relevant at all. What is relevant is making sure that the kids are happy, healthy and well adjusted.
Absolutely bang on here. Yet we do need to face the reality that the kids will be splitting their time with you and Dad. That is what a D does to families...unfortunately so.
Not at all. I want my kids to have a good R with their Dad. It is very important to me
What can YOU do to facilitate this? What you can do is your own part and the rest is up to H.
Yep. And I don't say a word about the way my H parents them when it is his time with the kids.
And I am sure you've done your share of eye rolling at some of H's parenting style. Tough to bite your tongue here, isn't it?
I have delved very deeply and I know that I am doing what is right for my kids. It is not a selfish endeavor on my part. I am very comfortable with this.
Sounds like you've weighed this carefully and thought through some posters' questions here. Ok. It's on! Be prepared for some real tough battles going forward...I don't think H will be letting this one go easy.
Have you communicated your desires to your L? I mean the not "now" 50/50. Ask her, in addition to the child psychologist, how this can be handled from a legal standpoint of view?
Tough to bite your tongue here, isn't it?