melissa, continued . . .

[melissag]

Thanks, guys. I have spent a lot of time on the parenting time issue.

(Wonka, legal custody means major decision making - the default here is joint decision making, unless one of the parents is pretty messed up.)

Just because a parent doesn't pose a physical danger to the kids doesn't mean it is in the kids' best interests to be with that parent 50% of the time. Here in CO, there is no presumption of 50/50 parenting time. The standard is what is in the best interest of the kids. It is not in their best interest to go from having Mom be the primary caregiver to being with Mom only half the time. It is highly unlikely a judge is going to give my H 50/50 right now. My H knows that, which is why he is trying all these different tactics to convince me to agree to it.

I am not against 50/50 EVER. Just not now. I think we need to slowly increase the overnights with H, and see how the kids are doing. Same with the schedule - see if the kids do better with longer blocks with each parent, or frequent back and forth.

I am truly trying to do what is best for the kids, with a lot of outside help to keep me on track. And no, I am not going to spend a lot of time, energy and money fighting a losing fight.