Need help saving my family - part 6

[AKHope]

Hi Scorp-

I posted back on page 4 but it hasn't made it to the thread yet. I'll reiterate a bit and comment on NOW.

Barry and Eric have done most of it already. So I'm supporting what they are already saying about YOUR ACTION regarding this wknd.

I have a favorite quote (source unknown) that works very well here.

"Getting what you want out of life is easy. Deciding what exactly you want and committing to that end is the hard part"

YOU must absolutely know exactly what it is you want your life as a co-parent to look like. Exactly what kind of a co-parenting relationship with W you want to have. So until you know what this looks like so clearly you can feel it like it's real, you won't get it.

It's about motivation. And people are motivated by only two things- what they want and what they don't. Call it "running toward" or "running from".

If you know what it is as an end point, you can run toward it. And it's a straight line, right? e.g. Mac and back

If you are running from, ANY direction of 360 degrees works. But you won't be where you want to be. It's just "not there"

You are in a situation that you don't want. I have the shirt from that, too. The natural tendency is to get away from it. But until you have your sights set on a new destination, your efforts are tentative, panicked and may prevent you getting where you want to go.

Start with what you know in your heart is best for you and the kids. And you've already said it as Eric points out-where you are, where the kids grew up, where you can maximize your income to everyone's benefit.

So talk to your L with that goal in mind and get on it.

Like Eric, (and we've discussed it offline), 50/50 is best for the kids. However, it can sometimes be a struggle so do your homework NOW. Look into all your options and assets for pre/post school care; sick day coverage; etc.

This is no different than your business, Scorp. PLan it out with contingencies for everything like it's a project you are bidding.

Take your clear business plan to the L and get this gig!

On a side note, a pleasant hello and thanks to Wonka for being here. You played a memorable role in my sitch a couple years back. I didn't get a chance to say thanks as I did to everyone else.