Emotions are high and very fraught during the D. This will not last for the rest of your life. In time, all of this will die down. I only have to look at Bets and Mr. Wonderful plus my own parents IRL as examples.
Keep on treating H with kindness and respect. Be consistent on this regardless of H's anger. His anger is his to own. Remember when your kids went through the terrible 2s phase, you did not take on their anger or be affected by it at all, right? Likewise with H.
