Heather - Seven years ago I actually went to a therapist with my (now) xh. This was about eighteen months after he had left, but he was convinced that there was something wrong with me, because I (and the children) were all so upset.
He fully expected the therapist to tell him that he was fine and that I was crazy, but the therapist asked him some very searching questions - after that session he left and I didn't see him again for over 18 months!! I did continue to see the therapist who was helpful as he had met my xh and therefore understood the whole situation.
