No decision, by him or you, is the end all, so try not to think of it that way. These things tend to ebb and flow so don't let your emotions get tied up in the success or failure of the day (or the what ifs).
Sounds like your conversations are improving....keep the changes going, keep validating and really listening.
I know, I need to take a step back and look at the progress instead of panicking. I'm worried he'll choose to remain in contact with her and in turn mean we cant be friends, that would hurt a lot but I know there's no point in us "being friends and seeing what happens" whilst he's doing the same with her!
He called earlier regarding work. I said thanks for talking last night and he said "thank you too, its given me a lot more clarity on the situation" so I'm not sure what that means....? We both agreed that we need to talk more again soon so will leave him a few days before I bring it up again, also give us both more chance to go over what we discussed.
Its been really difficult but I'm beginning to find listening much easier and validating his feelings/emotions is coming more natural too - the more I listen, the more my respect for him grows because I understand the process he's going through.
Divorce Final: Oct 2014
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