Need help saving my family - part 6

[ericmsant2]

Scorp7

FWIW, I would first consult your attny on how you should respond. Here is my take….

1. Are you planning on moving to the W's Home Town area?

This is a slippery slope if you ask me. Do YOU want to move to where she lives? Is that what makes sense for the kids? If I recall you mentioned that the town YOU live in, is a better town. On one hand, being closer to the kids is a very good thing. If the chances of them moving back to where you live are slim and IF it works for you to move closer to the kids and IF that is what you want then I would agree. IF deep down inside you are moving back to “show her” something – then honestly, IMO, it is the wrong reason to move back.

2. What does your timeline look like?

Valid question. Personally, I would suggest that you being having them with you 50% of the time ASAP. That may mean that she needs to drop them off on a set day and pick them up on a set day. This is why Drew and I suggested that you needed a DETAILED parenting plan. I have had my kids 50/50 for a while and it is not easy. I do not call my ex when my d12 is sick and has to stay home, I do not call when I need a baby sitter, I do not call during school vacations – all of this is stuff YOU need to figure out.

3. What about work?

Another good question. What about work Scorp? Can you work from home? Even if you can, will that work for the kids?

Now, I don't want to get my hope's up but it does seem that my W is MAYBE willing to be reasonable and discuss sharing time with our kids equally.

Any lawyer or reasonable person would make that suggestion to HER. Keep in mind she kidnapped the kids from YOU. She should be discussing parenting time with YOU.

I had already answered all of her questions several times over during the past few months going back to last November so I'm not sure why she's asking me again.

I suspect, that if you asked your L what you should do that the L would suggest you writing down what YOUR parenting plan looks like and then sharing it with your W. So the big question is really on YOU…what does Scorp7 want to do? Does he want to move? Does he have a house to sell and new job to get – is that what YOU want? Remember, YOU did not take the kids 4 hours away – she did.

Ideally the best option would be for my W and kids to move back to my province so I can have the best chance of a secure future with my career but I'm not sure she would even consider that at this point.

Once again – I understand why you may be inclined to move closer to her – I am just not sure that it is the best idea. Think about, what happens if she takes them and moves away again, are you going to relocate again? It appears that your decision is contingent on what your W wants – not on what YOU want or not what is in the best interest of the kids.

Scorp, this is just my opinion, ultimately you need to do what YOU think is best. I will support whatever decision you come to. FWIW, I feel for ya man.