RetroV came up in the discussion, previously she did not agree to it because she didn't know what it was about she said ...we looked online and read about it together and then she said ok.
So have you registered?
I have never attended, but have heard great things.
Yes, her girlfriends sound like a negative influence in her life. She will have to see it for herself. But I bet she can figure out most anything she's really interested in doing.
She may look into some group she feels will help "her" with personal problems, but don't get your hopes up that she will look for a M support type. She's not really interested in saving the M at this point.
But if she agreed to attend Retro, and the follow-up program, it might have the positive influence she needs. I wouldn't push for anything more right now.
I know this is very hard and you want to grasp at any straw out there. But if you find it and set it up for her.....and even take her to the meeting, you can't make her want to reconcile the M. When she comes back to you, it doesn't need to be for any reason but b/c she wants to be with you. You can try to pressure her and the family may show their disapproval, but what would you have if she stayed simply b/c she was pressured into not getting a D? You may be willing to accept those reasons, but I promise you, she will be have more resentment than she ever had in the past. The two of you would live out your M in misery.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
