Hi Bea, Your xh is not so abnormal... mine is doing the same sort of thing.

Your lament:
"It is as if we had all done these things to him rather than vice versa."

is exactly what i am going through at the moment.

My xh has turned this around so he is the sole victim.

On top of everything else, he is now, literally, accusing me of the financial malfeasances that he has engaged in, in respect of our family finances.

It's absolutely shocking that he could think that, given what he has done.

You are right, it's weird and seems to qualify as some sort of mental derangement.
But it seems that's what full-blown mlc is.

It's so hard to deal with.