I know I am stating the blindingly obvious, but my xh's behaviour is really abnormal. The whole MLC way of unilaterally ending the relationship was strange enough, but the unrelentling pursuit of an imagined legal claim against me is just crazy.
The latest complaint to the companies regulator about alleged irregularities is malicious in intent, as well as fundamentally untrue, but there are enough crooked dealings in the business world that they are obliged to investigate. There are apparently no sanctions apart from putting together a case for harrasment, which I am reluctant to do, as it elevates his own actions to an importance I do not feel they should have.
You would think if he really wanted to 'simply' end his marriage and live a different life he would do this. Close the door and not look back.
But over eight years after he left this is still going on. My xh is such a vicitm in all of this - you would never think that he left me, tried to impoverish me, abandoned his kids emotionally for years, and was really really abusive. It is as if we had all done these things to him rather than vice versa.
I tried hard to be kind and civil, and the children still try to have some sort of relationship with him. What I hoped for was a civil way of getting along. This just isn't happening, and I do not think there is a thing that any of us can do.
