Step one – You need to figure out what you are going to do with your Daughter. She has spent several YEARS away from YOU. That is not good for your daughter, who honestly is my first concern. Daughter missing daddies in their lives at an early age cause a great deal of damage that is not always seen for YEARS. So stop f*cking around already and figure out your plan for YOUR daughter!
I know you have seen a L, what exactly did they say about your daughter?
What is it that YOU really want as it relates to your daughter?
As Another Stander said….
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You need to blaze your own path.
I totally respect that you want things to work out between you and your W. I get it. If you do, then in my opinion, address the sitch with your Daughter FIRST and then you can figure out what to do with your W. The two ARE NOT CONNECTED. Your daughter will be your daughter for the rest of HER LIFE. Your Wife? Who knows. She may she may not. Ultimately YOU decide what your relationship with your wife will be like.
Me? Knowing that she has another man in the waits….we’ll I’d cut her arse off, go get an arrangement in place for my daughter, protect myself legally from my W and then start the real work which is, the work on you that you keep trying to avoid.
Have you seen your D?
When was the last time you saw her?
What was that time like?
Did she stay with “dad” or did you drop her right back off?
What kind of father do you want to be?
I’ll call you later but like I’ve said – STOP FU*KING AROUND and GO figure out what you want your parental relationship with your daughter to look like. I know you are going to mention “other things” that you are waiting for. I am gonna call that bul*chit! I bet…if your W called you today and said she dump both OM’s and wanted to work on the M if you just flew down to see her your arse would be on a plane faster than I can say Eric. Soooooo……….. what are you gonna do when your daughter says come see me daddy? Cause based on her age, she probably cannot articulate this NOW but she is probably feeling it!
There are some men on these boards that would KILL someone to see their kids, would climb mount everest naked to see their kids….remember that. The longer you wait to address this, the longer your daughter does not have a clear picture of what HER life with DADDY is gonna be like.
Time for ACTION Lost…..time for ACTION.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
