I've put together a hopefully coherent distillation: "dear d16, I've been thinking more about the shopping trip present. The idea was to have fun and spend time with you, and I thought that shopping together could be something enjoyable. I do have the right to spoil you a bit, every now and then, you know . I know going to XX is not your favorite thing, so how about we go to YY instead, or do something else that you like. If you don't want to do something together, I'd like to know why, as our R is very important to me, as is your happiness, and I will do whatever I can to improve it. Anyway, let's spend some time together, somewhere, soon, just you and me. Let me know what you'd like. Love, Dad - "
Apropos specific compliments: I complimented her on her "buttery" instrument tone (she was practicing last night), which her music eduction is really helping with. She still hasn't got a new instrument (she could use a better instrument), even though that was a gift nearly a year ago.
She did mention being able to use a new lighter laptop for school, who will install the software she needs. She says there is no hurry... Unbeknownst to her I already have exactly what she wants, hidden here, intended as a gift in the fall or Christmas, but now slated for Easter.
Would there be any point in emailing her the above? Perhaps an evening walk, if I can motivate her, would be a better opportunity to talk?
The secretly planted tulips are coming up -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
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