My H pushes my buttons on almost a daily basis lately. I hardly ever respond to any of his texts or emails. I can see why he would be frustrated by that. But he isn't seeming to get it that I'm not going to talk to him when he is pushing my buttons.
When I told him about a month ago that I would not respond to any disrespectful communications, he went on a long rant about how it was all my fault and I don't deserve respect, and how he would think I would *want* to communicate with him in order to not make him angry.
That is all to say that I am not convinced that he is learning anything about how to talk to me if he wants me to listen, but I guess at least I am doing the best I can to protect myself.
When it comes to blame . . . why does it bother me? I don't know. I guess I care too much about what he thinks? I don't want him to think that? Or maybe it's just so maddening that I continue to expect him to be sane and rational and am constantly disappointed. I really need to drop that expectation. Quite frankly, unrealistic expectations of my H is what got me into this mess in the first place.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
