WAW seems confused

[ManHope]

So we discussed financials and I suggested to her it will be nice for her to take a couple of months off maybe during the summer before starting a new possible teaching job in Sept. Her current job is stressful, long hrs, not much pay and sometimes weekend work.
At first she told me she wasn't going to be a stay at home mom, specially knowing that we are about to divorce. Then I told her all I wanted is to let her know we can afford for her to take a mini vacation to reduce stress levels, not seeing the kids too much, etc... and just relax for a couple of months (wether we are headed in that direction or not). She then seemed to like the idea and said she was going to think about it.
I know her main stress points (besides our M) deal with not having enough time for self development, time with the kids and the job. I believe is really hard for me to DB when she is angry and bitter most of the time. Ex: If I go see my child at her school and she finds out, she resents that I saw her while she is working. I feel this may be because she feels she is in the situation she is in now because of me. I think, wether we stay together or not, her taking a long vacation from work will benefit her mentally and it may be better for both of us wether she considers making up then or not.

About our R, she did mention to me she is still battling bitterness and trying to forgive me for all the times I focused on other things rather than her (work for the most part). She did say she hopes we can be friends (specially because of the kids) and she knows that can never happen if she keeps the bitterness. So she affirmed she has to overcome this.

Now for what I can tell, it is way though to try and reconcile with a bitter spouse. Deep inside of me I know she is rushing in to a D and that if she wasn't holding grudges or bitterness, reconciliation could be placed on the radar (even a little). Any ideas on how to deal with a bitter spouse?

For now I keep on showing love without being romantic. Today we did house chores all day and talked a little. It was a nice day overall. My thought is: "be patient, continue praying and just be nice" - Specially since it has been over 1.5 months since the last time we had a heated discussion about our M where I asked for forgiveness, and, even though we have been separated since nov 2013, I really didn't see her opening up until mid february.