I appreciate your advice and realize I need to be patient.
This weekend has been interesting. It seems like she is trying to control who I see and what I do. Her cousin dropped in on Friday night for an unscheduled visit. To my chagrin, sat AM when I was out, she phoned and my kids mentioned they had seen her cousin. My phone started buzzing with repeated phone calls. I picked up finally, only to be lectured about why I didn't tell her that her cousin was coming over and ok it with her. She had noticed I put a six pack of beer in the fridge, so she assumed that I knew he was dropping in. I explained I was having a friend over on Saturday, and she demanded to know who etc. She said I am driving a wedge between us. I calmly stated her actions are doing that, and we got off the phone.
On the Friday night before this happened, she had again flipped out on me for buying a present for our nephews birthday, as I was seeing them on Saturday. She told me to stay the F .$&@ away from her family yada yada yada. Blamed me for her strained relationships with her family right now.
I think the real issue here was she was picking up the OM later that night on Friday, and I think the angrier she is with me the easier it is to justify what she is doing. Just a guess on my part. I think she picked a fight to get angry and then justify what she was doing.
I awoke the next AM on Saturday, after she had flipped out on me Friday night, to a text about how lucky the kids are to have me as a father. Not sure if that was a guilty text or what , but it is somewhat different from the tune she was singing in January when she was explaining why she was leaving. Obviously, I realize whatever she is saying she has motives.
Both times she got angry on Friday night and Saturday AM, I stayed calm, and I realized that my PMA was being affected by her attitude. No one likes to be yelled at, but I also realize arguing is pointless. As Starsky says, put on the spew jacket and suit up.
Anyways, her conference continues, more distance right now, which I think is positive. Too bad we've had an outbreak of Norwalk at my house, or I might be able to enjoy some quiet time with the kids
Thanks again for all the advice. I do realize this is long ride.
