My 180s are to spend more time with kids; helping support W as she starts new career by cooking on weekends and taking care of some of the housework.
My greater involvement around the house and with the kids has been good; I'm becoming the supportive H I always should have been. The man only a fool would leave.
But now I've got the kids covered, and I continue to foot all the bills. So she has less responsibility, and no consequences. That's why I think I'm enabling cake-eating.
I've considered consulting L as to how far I can turn the financial screws. "While A, won't pay." I fear that forcing her to a decision in that way would be counterproductive. Or that she would make a "decision of convenience" to get the money flowing again.
I also believe that everything is not rosy in A-land right now. While that doesn't mean I'm back in, it encourages me to be patient.
