Thanks, LTH. It sure seems as though my H is angry that he is no longer in control of the process. He seems to have had a plan (a delusional one) and I am not going along with it.

I do think that he wants peace. But, as soon as something doesn't go his way, he goes back into angry warpath mode. Then he blames the lack of peace on me.

It's hard because I want to have peace with him, but I don't think it is possible right now without me capitulating to him. And I am not willing to do that. (Not because I am being stubborn or as a principle, but because I am going to stand up for what I am legally entitled to.)

me: 44 XH: 42
M 11 years
D10 and S8
Bomb drop 9/27/13
D final 7/1/14