melissa, continued . . .

[melissag]

I'm not angry. I am frustrated, sad and feeling like there is no way out of this crap no matter what I do.

I don't care if he is angry (well, I do care, but I can ignore it) - EXCEPT THAT it makes co-parenting very difficult. And then I am the one to blame for it. He says he wants peace, but he wants me to make that happen. I'm not doing anything that isn't peaceful, so the only way to make that happen, I guess, is to agree to whatever he wants.

(The anger wasn't in his email. He goes back and forth switching between anger, guilt, shame and being nice to me. He was very angry 18 hours ago and letting me know. And, if the past is any indication, it will be back shortly.)

I can move forward with my attorney. That is what I have been doing. That is what he doesn't like. When you said, "call your attorney in the morning and get the deal going," I (maybe mis) understood that to mean that you thought that would give my H what he wants. That's not what he wants. He wants to talk directly and resolve things without the lawyers. The problem is, when we do that, he tries to manipulate me into agreeing to much less than I am legally entitled to, knowing full well exactly what I am entitled to. And he uses all sorts of dirty tactics to try to make me do what he wants. Which is exactly why I have an attorney. He has got it set up so that I am to blame regardless of what I do, unless I agree to the settlement he wants.