Divorce on the table, Hoping for Miracle 2

[Groov]

The response I got back from the letter I sent. (Using machs template)

Groov,
Thank you for responding to and considering my email.  I do understand that we are discussing life changing events, and I'm happy to give you until the end of the week to consider.  Friday by 5pm should be reasonable.   I'm sure that you'll agree that my initiating this process in early December has given you adequate time to consider how you'd like to proceed, regardless of how you have chosen to utilize that time.  I have continued to ask for your input and suggestions on matters, but your lack of responsiveness has placed me in a position where I feel it necessary to establish some time frames that I will be operating in to move this process forward.  As I mentioned before, It's very difficult to figure out how best to care for our children when I can't get a sense of the "big picture."  Financially I feel a tremendous burden, and I need some clarity as to how this is all going to play out.  I acknowledge that you're not against me.  In turn, I hope that you'll continue to feel that from my side as well.  I would, however, urge you to strongly consider what is in the best interest of our children as your trying to work through "what's best for you."   As I've put together this proposal, the children and your expressed desires have been in the forefront of my mind.

Below is my proposal for a non-contested divorce:
Steps for non-contested divorce: 1)agreement, 2)sign stipulation, 3)divorce class, 4)file Docs, 5)90 day wait, 6)judge signs decree

Cost: $950 for Attorney/paperwork, $318 for court fee, $55 per person for divorce edu class

 

Custody:              Joint Legal Custody (50/50)

                              Primary Physical Custody to mother

 

Parent-time:       Based on statute at minimum, additional visits by agreement

Child Support:     Averaged by 2012/2013 income

                              Medical/Dental 50/50 for Kids

                              Childcare/extracurricular activities 50/50

                              Tax Dependents 50/50

Property and Debts:

                              Debt 50/50

                              Marital residence outright to Groov

                              Investment properties outright to Wife

                              See spread sheet for additional assets

Alimony:              no alimony in lieu of cash equity from properties

 

Steps for contested Divorce, general process: 1)file and serve, 2)respond/answer, 3)hearing and temporary orders assessed, 4)discovery/explore settlement/mediation, experts and custody evaluation, 5)Pre-trial confirmation, 6)Final Trial

Cost: $2500 deposit, $190/hr.  End cost...  unknown.



If we go to a contested divorce, the alteration to above will be:  the max child support with no negotiation, back child support for the past eight months, full alimony, liquidation of all properties for a clean 50/50 break.  I suppose where this goes is up to you.  I'd strongly prefer the more peaceful and cost effective way.  We can both move on in respect and as friends if we work together on this.  However, if you feel I'm unreasonable or unfair, I suppose we can drain every last cent on fees and court costs.  Please let me know what you're thinking.



Thanks,

W