People often debate about when to tell kids how babies are made. The best advice is when they ask, because they are then ready to hear it.

Maybe your child asked, When are you coming home, daddy? In that situation, I would have answered truthfully. I see nothing to be gained by not being truthful in that moment. If he had called the kids into a room and said Sit down, I have something to tell you-that's a different story. He answered a question. Yes, he mentioned you. Bad move on his part. It's done.

I agree that it would have been better to do it together. That didn't happen. I know you had mentioned doing that. Had the 2 of you talked about it? Why hadn't a time been arranged to do that?

I understand the anger but he did it, it's over. He could have not told you and let you deal with the aftermath without warning. Seems to me he's being pretty honest. Answer any questions your kids have when they come home. Of course there will be aftermath, there would be no matter how they were told.

He's done, he wants out and needs to know what you want in order to make that happen. Call your attorney in the morning and get the deal going.

I'm looking at it objectively, I have no dog in this fight. I make no apologies for anyone.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss