Great move on staying out if that's what made YOU happy last night. A "cherry on top" would have been to just come home and go to bed.

Looking from the outside of your situation, you came into the master bedroom and wanted her head to pop up...at least some part of you did. its early in your situation, try to stop "....looking over your shoulder to see if she's there..." (trust me I am only now getting better at this...but I svcked at it in the beginning). Just do things if you wanted to.

Ask yourself, "did I really want to stay out until 230?" If you say yes...great. if you find that you were doing it so W would notice...that's not what you're looking for. Do stuff b/c you want to. not b/c she'll see it smile Enjoy the day !

me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14