OK, wow. My H went ahead and told our kids that he isn't coming home. Without me there. After we had discussed a million times that such conversations need to be with both parents present, and without any blame on one parent or the other.
This is what he said:
I told them that I'm not moving home and that it's permanent. I told them that you and I both love them a tremendous amount. I told them that you're a really strong person and that when I'm with you, it's hard for me to be me. They get that because they can see the differences in me. They don't like it a lot, but I think they get it.
Then he sent me an email about how he wants peace, and please can I just agree to him having 50/50 custody of the kids.
M my W did the same thing. I never got a straight answer from the kids as to exactly what she said. I suspect that the spin on it was something slightly in her better light.....sounds like H did that too. They say that it was a beutral way to out it...but you have no way to know what they said. You weren't there. ..ugh. sorry. Your kids will be ok..so will you.
Ye21....that's not about rules. I don't recall...do you have kid s....?
M ...just keep going. Because my W told the kids she was leaving without me and it didn't seem to bother her or them, I did thr ssme when I told them we had filed to D. That's when I knew she didn't want to be my partner. They all told me she had made it clear when she left she was not coming home. My kids were only suprised that I was surprised.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
