Have been following along and again nodding. I can imagine your H does a lot of mind reading, assuming you will react in a particular way and then WAM you do something else..love it Detaching is so tough..and I fear like you that expectations will sink me everytime.. I know I think I have been . Good or fair or whatever so he will be pleasant back.. and he doesn't and then I'm hurt and then I'm angry I'm hurt ahhhh... Enjoy you summer sports. I don't understand them ... but love the rugby so understand For me I would do the week long course in TKD.. maybe your H can't get so much time away crom work.. fingers crossed and what happened to his rowing