how do I let him know it's wrong without arguing with him or being defensive?

No way to let him know that, what is " wrong" for you migth not be "wrong" for him, its his sole responsability to face the consequence of his actions...

He cant see any of his responsability because even upset or happy you still around him...

Maybe eventually he will get tired of being mad too.

The natural status of the human being its peace, serenity and happiness so yes or yes one day he will search for that...

In every post you mention him... Play this exercise....for the next 5 post dont mention him and just journal about you...

I cant stop drinking if all I do its dream and talk about how good a cold beer tastes smile


When the student its ready, the teacher will appear...
Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me."
Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.