It is hard. If it's a dealbreaker, then just tell her and move on as best you can. I feel for you. It [censored]. It totally does. But at least you know you'll survive it and life will get better. Let her deal with her own sandbox and you take care if yours. I am sorry though. It must hurt.
She made a comment the other day. "I think you just like the idea of being married, I'm not in love with you anymore and not wiling to work on the marriage"
It's not only what she's said, but what she's done. Some WAS's will say the right things while their actions show otherwise. She's chopping off both legs. I'm sorry you're in this, but I think hanging on will only hurt you more.
Look Lost she is choosing, let her do whatever she wants... She can f the entire town if she wants, now you have to choose as well but you are affraid to choose because you are scared of feeling guilty.... Thats why I always lately said about wrong and right beliefs...because you are scared of doing what others consider "wrong" in their beliefs you dont step forward to protect yourself, instead you stay frozen and panicking and "expecting" she will have an eye opener that brings her back to you... Well unfortunatelly its not gonna happen anytime soon, or at least thats what it seems like it... In this case I will ask you to respond to this question honestly... Do you want to still have any chance of getting back with her??
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
Ok well, if you want her back you need to find yourself first and this is gonna be one of the few only times I will give this advice...
Lost you are probably not gonna like this:
You need to get out of her life, and you have to do it now...it could be moving out any of you... Whatever ends the spiral....
She is in a "juvennal" state of mind feeling like a teenager again and while she is at this point you need to step out way far, otherways you are not gonna be able to deal with this...
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
I've never been disrespected like this in my entire life. 1st OM is only 26yrs old, F my w on a regular basis. 2nd OM is a 2nd yr resident, waiting patiently to get a piece of the pie in 3month. For God sake, I was a 2nd yr resident like 8yrs ago. I had the opportunities to damage marriages but never did. I had the opportunity to turn families up side down but never entertained it. I had the opportunity to cheat on my wife but never did. Despite the distance between us and multiple opportunity to cheat, I stayed committed to my vows and family. Now I see why people don't get married anymore.
