Melissa I just came back from a 2 hours bike trip.... Most of the time even if I was pedaling 20 mph I was thinking about why my wife now wants to cancel my phone account, why she cancelled the tv cable and bla bla, I was like why she is so angry at me? What it brings me to this point that the WAS probably leaves because they are very resentfull, instead of having communication...they just close themselves and act like the inner child they have controlling their actions right now.... So when a child gets out of control as you know they react inmature and they dont listen to any kind of rational approach....the best thing its to let them go and to dont react to their behaviour because it will only frustrate you...
Do you remember the movie Gremlims? When they came ugly if you kept feeding them they multiply and they are more and more agressive.... The Gremlin one was the sweetest and the nicest but they turn different in contact with some elements.... I am not calling the spouses Gremlims!!! (Even if they are very similar ) its good not take the life so serious... Anyway when you fight them or try to make them see your point even in a friendly and cordial way...you are feeding the Gremlim.... The WAS has to underestand that untill they dont choose to talk in a mature way its not worth it to talk to them and you are not going to talk to them....keep it simple like that... Less pain to deal with...
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
) its good not take the life so serious... Anyway when you fight them or try to make them see your point even in a friendly and cordial way...you are feeding the Gremlim.... The WAS has to underestand that untill they dont choose to talk in a mature way its not worth it to talk to them and you are not going to talk to them....keep it simple like that... Less pain to deal with...