melissa, continued . . .

[paul19510]

I did get a tiny bit of comic relief bc he is so indignant about it, when the kids don't even have school that day, but overall his behavior is just very disturbing to me.

He seems to be fighting some sort of war with - WHO? Why am I the enemy?

HE LEFT ME. He wanted to get D. He said he is the happiest he has ever been in his WHOLE LIFE.

So why can't he go live his happy life, and leave me alone????

25, or anyone else - what am I supposed to do with this? Do I ignore his texts? Do I ask him why he is angry and validate? Do I go run and hide in a corner? Do I just continue to be nice and even keeled (as far as he knows), be cooperative (to the extent that it doesn't screw over my kids or me) regardless of what he does, and ignore his crap?

Uggghhh. I am going to yoga again tonight. H ruined my ohhhhmmmm.

Hi M! I really like the part about school...made me chuckle You did great.

Funny thing that we are similar about again is that my W is acting the same. She's angry and indignant. She threw out to me that I had looked for ways out too, she just had the courage to do it...OK, we'll go there... I asked her if we had done anything that our MC had asked us to try to help save this M. We'll no...but we don't get along she said...ugh.

IMHO your H is getting a dose (albeit a small one) of reality. You're not playing the game anymore. in the first few months, he was the WAS and you were Db'ing and he could come over the ML and then later he could tell you, "I F'd up by doing that..." Now, you get it...he's gone, M is probably toast...and you're still standing....Bravo! I believe that the best revenge is a life well lived. Perhaps I'm wrong, but he wants to "hook" you into showing this still bugs you.

My W got really mad at D16 when she asked her mom, "....did you think we were all going to sit around here crying forever...you left, we can't cry all the time. life moves on, Mom...." W's response was that D16 as being disrespectful.

You're moving forward. I can see it in your posts. Your H is off the pedestal. IMHO he wants back up there....don't give in