Bond - I know that my H has his own views on parenting, and he is welcome to them. Some of his tactics I disagree with 100%. That doesn't mean he can't use them, but it does mean I will not support him. For a short while, when I was desperately trying to get him to stay, I 180d too far and I supported him in those tactics that I disagree with. (Such as, 4-hour long power struggles with my S7.) Now I have to live with myself for doing that.
I'm not saying that mic's parenting is correct and her H's isn't. I am saying that if she feels strongly about something, she should not go against her parenting values in order to appease her H. That doesn't mean don't take his thoughts into consideration, or let's just assume you are right and he is wrong. Just, stand up for what you think is right, if it's important to you. Whether it's with regard to parenting or anything else.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
